Dear one,
I know you're lacking motivation and you're full of anxiety about your future ... and your present, probably more the present right now. You would know better than I.
You've pulled back a little. You're disconnected, and worn out from the battle. Maybe you're being a bit lazy, depressed, spending your attention on empty distractions, waiting for something to happen, a breakthrough, a change, without doing much of anything to bring it about. Sometimes, taking it too easy just brings hardship. Life will run you over if you don't keep moving.
Maybe the lack of motivation is because it seems the more you do, the more disappointments and trouble you find. So, you fall into a state of learned helplessness and stop trying.
But you can't do that. You can't avoid these things, lifes little disappointments, but instead, need to avoid these ways of thinking. Learn to recover quickly from upsets. Replace them with positive affirmations and search out the silver linings There is much you can do to change outcomes.
Some things are fun and easy, but it's never easy overall. Some things are tough, a challenge. You've got to engage. Face the disappointments, recover from every one, and have at it again. Steel your resolve, be resilient. and put in the time with focused attention.
You've got to take your lumps and deal with the chumps. You've got to risk failure in every moment of your life, because only by doing that you'll find success. That's how it works. Don't fear failure; fear not trying enough to succeed. Fear giving up.
That's just how it is, scary, even painful sometimes. Life is suffering and struggle. And with our best efforts, we can overcome when it matters most, and bring comfort and joy into this space, where it was withering on the vine before.
And those little wins along the way will give you strength to feel the confidence and reward of doing something every day, little wins, and the rush of crossing the finish line, improving your time, your performance, your life, as you gather achievements and capabilities... and some pretty wonderful experiences along the way.
Achievement against a difficult challenge is one of the sweetest moments in life. Seek your sweetest moments.
You do have it in you. I see it all the time, in different moments when your eyes sparkle with a zest for life in whatever it is you're engaged in ... and it's a beautiful thing.
You are a beautiful thing. You have it in you. Believe that! Especially when things conspire to make you believe that you're not beautiful and you don't have it in you. You are and you do!
Engage it, buckle up. and drive it like you own it! ... because you do. And when you do fully, you'll love it! You can handle it. Life is worth every challenge.
May your measure of your joys far outweigh your measure of your sorrows such that you always feel that life is not only worth living, but worth all the joy points for sure. And your joy is in your hands and mind as you learn to find it every where you can.
It is in you. Be a miner for a heart of joy, the gold will come.
All my love to you, my fellow minor. 😉
Love,
Major Dad
